7 Tips For Talking To People You Disagree With
The holidays are all about coming together, which can be tricky when not everyone sees eye to eye. Here are a few simple ways to keep things peaceful (and maybe even meaningful) during this year’s celebrations.
Take the long view.
Big feelings and disagreements don’t vanish after one meal. Give yourself and others time — connection is a slow burn, not a quick fix.
Don’t try to talk people out of their feelings.
If someone’s upset or frustrated, just listen. You don’t have to fix it or fact-check it — sometimes people just need to feel heard.
Not every topic needs to be a battle.
You don’t have to dive into every debate. Decide which things really matter to you, and let the rest slide. Peace is worth more than winning.
Meet people where they are.
Nobody changes overnight. Be curious, ask questions, and let the conversation unfold at its own pace.
Stay humble — you might learn something.
Even if you’re sure you’re right, try asking, “What if I’m missing something?” It’s amazing what can open up when you lead with curiosity.
Different doesn’t mean wrong.
There’s a lot of space between “I disagree” and “you’re a bad person.” Try to see differences as a chance to understand more, not shut down.
Keep showing up.
Don’t give up on each other, even when it’s uncomfortable. The goal isn’t to agree on everything — it’s to stay connected while we figure things out.
And last but not least, do not undervalue a good dessert.
